Each January, we make plans and new goals for a better year. This year, I wanted to try something different. Instead of setting up SMART goals – specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timely goals – such as ‘I want to get a new job,’ I wanted to set goals based on values, perspective, and long-term interest.
While tangible results with timeline are good motivation, the danger of solely relying on certainty is that we don’t train ourselves enough to face the unpredictable reality in life. When we do face them, we panic and have trouble digesting the uncertainty and the intangible nature in moral values, love, relationships, expectation, and belief. Furthermore, I have begun to question how much of my goals are indeed goals I want to pursue and not what society told me is good to pursue. I don’t think we spend enough time thinking about this. Brainpickings article on “15 resolutions for 2015 from some of humanities greatest minds” gave me some inspiration too.
So, here is my 2015 resolutions. I plan to print it and hang it on my wall to remind myself what I wanted to do to become a better person and fulfill my values in the long run and not just this year. Let’s check back in December and see how this went.
- Live each moment to the fullest and learn to enjoy the roller coaster ride
- Find a career where I could grow, love, learn, and help others effectively
- Prioritize quality time with family and friends – a.k.a. more offline time
- Let go of high expectation and failures; forgive myself and others; and learn from those mistakes to become a better person
- Reflect more
- Write more and better
- Identify what I love and pursue what makes me happy
- Trust my guts
- Eat and think healthy
- Don’t rush into conclusion or a decision
What is yours?
Happy New Year!
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